Weddings bring out the most colorful of personalities. Make sure to please them all (even if they are all your own). If that fails, blame the groom’s mother.

Remember the Id
Your most base desire? Coming right out and asking your well-to-do friends and family to hand over blank checks. Instead, try Louella Press invites — they hit a more subtle note with monogrammed stationery on paper that feels like cotton. Available at The Papery.

Ponder the Spatial Model
Lull guests into semiconsciousness on the terrace of the Institute of Contemporary Art (118 South 36th Street, 215-898-4980). Or enjoy nature at Bolingbroke Mansion.

Tailor the Super Ego
The fantasy: You slip into the perfect Augusta Jones dress from Bridals by Danielle. Then put an updated spin on your wedding footwear with a pair by Rene Caovilla from Boyds new shoe lounge. Thank your lucky stars for nonpsycho bridesmaids with Bijou Graphique necklaces, available at The Black Cat (3428 Sansom Street, 215-386-6664).

Remember His Oedipal Complex
Do something for his mom (or keep her tied up for a few hours): The Cleopatra Treatment includes a head-to-toe cleansing, exfoliation, and a milk and honey full-body mummy wrap (Rescue Rittenhouse Spa, 255 South 17th Street, 215-772-2766). Something for him and his crew? Engraved iPod Nanos with words of your choosing should make you the most awesome bride-to-be.

Avoid Peony Envy
Flowers, they’re so pretty. But let’s leave this up to the experts at Sweet Pea. You want one of everything? Call Brian Kappra’s Evantine Design for breathtaking, over-the-top florals.

Feed the Hysteria
Indulge their oral fixations with vanilla cheesecake with raspberry filling from Sweet Jazmines.

Beyond the Pleasure Principle
Yes, you want to dance at your wedding, and, no, you don’t want to be three bourbons deep when “Sweet Caroline” is the best dance track you’ve heard all night. DJs Michael Anderer and Maiken Scott (michaelanderer@comcast.net) spin indie, soul, hip-hop, and all your favorites.

Face Your Selective Memory
When it’s all over, you’re left with the photos. Don’t get stuck with a lineup of vacant faces. Shea Roggio (610-356-0500) takes stunning pics without getting in the way, and Kelly Turso (215-264-5970) takes memorable photos of your nearest and dearest, without all the stuffy fussiness. She’ll also get a few special before shots of you for your soon-to-be-groom.

So relax. With everything taken care of, there’s no need to overanalyze.

Need more inspiration? Check out the spring 2006 Everywhere wedding guide.