Posted by RabbiClaireGreen on Mar 16, 2010 9:22:41 PM

While every wedding, from large 'n grand to simple 'n cozy has elements of choreography and design, the event itself is not theater, but, a spiritually uplifting experience for the congregational gathering, whether they are assembed in a barn on the family farm or a destination spot or a House of Worship. The day's events may indeed be described as theatrical; but, dear friends it's not theather. In the same way that heart surgery may be dramatic and theatrical when viewed for the observation gallery, the patient and family along with medical team would speak of it as lifesaving. So, to is a good wedding life saving and life affirming. The central cathartic dramatic experience is the ceremony. It is here that clergy are like spiritual mirrors because they reflect to the assembled circle of family and friend the spiritual sensibilities and values of the couple in such a way as to make sure that all those present feel called upon to make their own pledge of support in response to witnessing the couple exchange their own vows. It is a powerful process requiring the facilitation of clergy. Would that couples spent as much effort finding clergy to support them not only for the wedding but for that marriage as they spend finding a journalistic photographer or lighting designer or ketubah artist. The ceremony is, like heart surgery, relatively short with long-term benefits, the purpose of which is to empower the couple's future. May each couple be ever grateful for the union of their lives. May the wedding details be a joyous reflection of the happy anticipation of their shared sacred journey which the clergy articulate in a manner which when best done is forever remembered and cherished. Mazel tov and congratulations.